Wednesday, December 18, 2019
Learn to be a gracious competitor
Everyone needs to learn to be a gracious winner and a gracious loser.
Human kindness first
Use your intelligence in a positive way, cultivate the warm-heartedness that can be the catalyst of constructive change.
Materialistic goals aside, cultivate human kindness first.
Thursday, August 1, 2019
Terrible July 2019
Have to record all the bad things that happened in the month of July 2019
July 22:
Father-in-law Interment Ceremony
. big waste of money
. big unhappiness from MIL and SIL
Sis got hit by Uninsured Motorist whom even try to claim medical coverage
July 25-26:
SIL and MIL went crazy.
First foul words text from SIL
Then MIL forced face to face talk in car during commute home. Spilled out all the unhappiness accumulated from all these years.
July 27, want to pretend all is good after the big argument. But no thanks, really.
July 31, the big court hearing day for sis:
Postponed because judge got last minute filling from Sung
Got the 8k+ bill from lawyer.
Silver Linings of the month.
John finally showed up on 7/31 at mom's home to start the repair.
July 22:
Father-in-law Interment Ceremony
. big waste of money
. big unhappiness from MIL and SIL
Sis got hit by Uninsured Motorist whom even try to claim medical coverage
July 25-26:
SIL and MIL went crazy.
First foul words text from SIL
Then MIL forced face to face talk in car during commute home. Spilled out all the unhappiness accumulated from all these years.
July 27, want to pretend all is good after the big argument. But no thanks, really.
July 31, the big court hearing day for sis:
Postponed because judge got last minute filling from Sung
Got the 8k+ bill from lawyer.
Silver Linings of the month.
John finally showed up on 7/31 at mom's home to start the repair.
Tuesday, April 2, 2019
Strangest dream
Had the strangest dream last night!
Dreamed I was married to a totally stranger someone else. Tall, chubby and Chinese but have no idea who he is. I was told he works for the school in a search lab and we were married not that long ago. Someone made the comment saying "he is not divorced or anything" so it might be that it's my second marriage? It feel crazy to be told to be married to someone I have absolutely no knowledge about. And every word that person said just becomes very personally disturbing when it's not right. So the conversation was more like "let's get on to having kid(s)!" My mom was somehow a younger version of her true self and I was in Taiwan. Also because I was staying at a house of our relatives with a large number of my own family for a few weeks, I was told to write a check for 14 some million Taiwan dollar from my dad's account.
Everything seems so real but disturbing. I could still remember a lot o it upon waking up. I keep wondering what if I need to issue the check, how much is it really in HK dollar or US dollars. Who is that guy anyways? Have I seen someone like that in real life? What terrible feeling to be married to the wrong someone. There is just nothing worth to be tied to someone you don't know or care. Really the worst feeling of it all.
So it got me thinking... what if I have to remarry under some circumstance. Would it be better to stay single or I just need to spend more time with that person before making a decision. It's all a bit confusing or maybe more disturbing. Also, I should treat my husband better... in every sense....
Dreamed I was married to a totally stranger someone else. Tall, chubby and Chinese but have no idea who he is. I was told he works for the school in a search lab and we were married not that long ago. Someone made the comment saying "he is not divorced or anything" so it might be that it's my second marriage? It feel crazy to be told to be married to someone I have absolutely no knowledge about. And every word that person said just becomes very personally disturbing when it's not right. So the conversation was more like "let's get on to having kid(s)!" My mom was somehow a younger version of her true self and I was in Taiwan. Also because I was staying at a house of our relatives with a large number of my own family for a few weeks, I was told to write a check for 14 some million Taiwan dollar from my dad's account.
Everything seems so real but disturbing. I could still remember a lot o it upon waking up. I keep wondering what if I need to issue the check, how much is it really in HK dollar or US dollars. Who is that guy anyways? Have I seen someone like that in real life? What terrible feeling to be married to the wrong someone. There is just nothing worth to be tied to someone you don't know or care. Really the worst feeling of it all.
So it got me thinking... what if I have to remarry under some circumstance. Would it be better to stay single or I just need to spend more time with that person before making a decision. It's all a bit confusing or maybe more disturbing. Also, I should treat my husband better... in every sense....
Monday, January 14, 2019
Happy at Work
I am happy when
1. I found problems and filed bugs.
2. I made real friend at work who shares both work and personal knowledge.
3. I get a raise or reward.
4. I successfully filed a patent.
5. I have good manager who told me I weigh my weight in gold!
6. my work allows me to also handle my personal needs. (parents, kids, other things...)
7. the coffee at work is GREAT!!
1. I found problems and filed bugs.
2. I made real friend at work who shares both work and personal knowledge.
3. I get a raise or reward.
4. I successfully filed a patent.
5. I have good manager who told me I weigh my weight in gold!
6. my work allows me to also handle my personal needs. (parents, kids, other things...)
7. the coffee at work is GREAT!!
Tuesday, January 8, 2019
2019 - To be achieved
新年的心愿清单
工作，财务，健康，成长，娱乐，感情: 每一方面：自己投入了多少（时间和金钱)
1. Less sugar and carbo.
2. Smile more.
3. Be soft spoken.
4. Calm & Cool. Speak calmly and softly to the kids!
5. Work standing up.
6. Replace bad word with "Oh, Geez!"
7. 想要的越少，束缚就越少，做一个极简生活的践行者。
8. 临场反应能力慢，创意不足是我的缺点，逻辑性强，规划性强，自律和学习能力是我的优点。
9. Read and summarize learning
10. 钱多事少离家近的工作
11. 不去抱怨，寻找解决问题的方式，解决问题
12. 远离一切负面语言和能量
13. Ability to make far-sighted choice(s). Made big decisions by discussing them twice: once while drunk, once while sober. (^_^) Decide which option would be most appealing today, later this year, and decades from now; which would be preferable emotionally, financially, and morally; and which is better for you, your family, and society. Seeking out diverse perspectives on the choice, challenging your assumptions, making an explicit effort to map the variables”—constituted “a step up” from the pro-and-con lists. First ask ourselves what we value, then seek to maximize that value. A decision is essentially a value-maximizing equation. Plug in your values, and the right choice pops out. Vegemite Principle: if you’ve never tasted Vegemite, then neither a description of what it’s like (black, gooey, vegetal) nor experience with other spreads (peanut butter, marmalade, Nutella) will suffice to tell you whether you’d like it. Before having children, you may enjoy clubbing, skydiving, and LSD; you might find fulfillment in careerism, travel, cooking, or CrossFit; you may simply relish your freedom to do what you want. Having children will deprive you of these joys. And yet, as a parent, you may not miss them. You may actually prefer changing diapers, wrangling onesies, and watching “Frozen.” These activities may sound like torture to the childless version of yourself, but the parental version may find them illuminated by love, and so redeemed. You may end up becoming a different person—a parent. The problem is that you can’t really know, in advance, what “being a parent” is like. For Paul, there’s something thrilling about this quandary. Why should today’s values determine tomorrow’s? In her 2014 book, “Transformative Experience,” she suggests that living “authentically” requires occasionally leaving your old self behind “to create and discover a new self.” Part of being alive is awaiting the “revelation” of “who you’ll become.”
14. Life decisions touch on the question of who we aspire to become. There are some vague sense of its value that's hard to express, which you hope that some future version of yourself might properly grasp.
15. HIIT = High Intensity Interval Training
工作，财务，健康，成长，娱乐，感情: 每一方面：自己投入了多少（时间和金钱)
1. Less sugar and carbo.
2. Smile more.
3. Be soft spoken.
4. Calm & Cool. Speak calmly and softly to the kids!
5. Work standing up.
6. Replace bad word with "Oh, Geez!"
7. 想要的越少，束缚就越少，做一个极简生活的践行者。
8. 临场反应能力慢，创意不足是我的缺点，逻辑性强，规划性强，自律和学习能力是我的优点。
9. Read and summarize learning
10. 钱多事少离家近的工作
11. 不去抱怨，寻找解决问题的方式，解决问题
12. 远离一切负面语言和能量
13. Ability to make far-sighted choice(s). Made big decisions by discussing them twice: once while drunk, once while sober. (^_^) Decide which option would be most appealing today, later this year, and decades from now; which would be preferable emotionally, financially, and morally; and which is better for you, your family, and society. Seeking out diverse perspectives on the choice, challenging your assumptions, making an explicit effort to map the variables”—constituted “a step up” from the pro-and-con lists. First ask ourselves what we value, then seek to maximize that value. A decision is essentially a value-maximizing equation. Plug in your values, and the right choice pops out. Vegemite Principle: if you’ve never tasted Vegemite, then neither a description of what it’s like (black, gooey, vegetal) nor experience with other spreads (peanut butter, marmalade, Nutella) will suffice to tell you whether you’d like it. Before having children, you may enjoy clubbing, skydiving, and LSD; you might find fulfillment in careerism, travel, cooking, or CrossFit; you may simply relish your freedom to do what you want. Having children will deprive you of these joys. And yet, as a parent, you may not miss them. You may actually prefer changing diapers, wrangling onesies, and watching “Frozen.” These activities may sound like torture to the childless version of yourself, but the parental version may find them illuminated by love, and so redeemed. You may end up becoming a different person—a parent. The problem is that you can’t really know, in advance, what “being a parent” is like. For Paul, there’s something thrilling about this quandary. Why should today’s values determine tomorrow’s? In her 2014 book, “Transformative Experience,” she suggests that living “authentically” requires occasionally leaving your old self behind “to create and discover a new self.” Part of being alive is awaiting the “revelation” of “who you’ll become.”
14. Life decisions touch on the question of who we aspire to become. There are some vague sense of its value that's hard to express, which you hope that some future version of yourself might properly grasp.
15. HIIT = High Intensity Interval Training
Wednesday, September 5, 2018
快樂人生關鍵
在人生路上做對的選擇：
朋友
怎麼用時間
自我理
有穩定的家庭生活：
擁有長期互相扶持的伴侶，
乖巧上進健康的孩子。
有健康的身心：
健康即財富， 零醫療費用，不必進出醫院
保持精神健康，沒有不必要的壓力，有满足感
去戶外運動，鍛練健身， 足夠的休息。
有幾個知己好友：
擁有具智慧，態度平和，胸襟廣闊，而善良的朋友
有清楚的目標：
清楚自己的目標，用積極主動態度去參與，令自己生活充實
積極安排利用工作和業餘時間 。
有正確的人生態度：
內心滿足，有樂於施予的心態 ，
對身邊事物更拿得起、放得下 ，
精神上能長期處於快樂、滿足的情緒。
沒有金錢的煩惱：
有自己舒服整齊的房子，
有房地產的租金收入，
有足夠的累積資產。
有很多的時間：
出旅行，出學習 ，
做自己真正喜欢的事
對自己年齡的外表滿意：
朋友
怎麼用時間
自我理
有穩定的家庭生活：
擁有長期互相扶持的伴侶，
乖巧上進健康的孩子。
有健康的身心：
健康即財富， 零醫療費用，不必進出醫院
保持精神健康，沒有不必要的壓力，有满足感
去戶外運動，鍛練健身， 足夠的休息。
有幾個知己好友：
擁有具智慧，態度平和，胸襟廣闊，而善良的朋友
有清楚的目標：
清楚自己的目標，用積極主動態度去參與，令自己生活充實
積極安排利用工作和業餘時間 。
有正確的人生態度：
內心滿足，有樂於施予的心態 ，
對身邊事物更拿得起、放得下 ，
精神上能長期處於快樂、滿足的情緒。
沒有金錢的煩惱：
有自己舒服整齊的房子，
有房地產的租金收入，
有足夠的累積資產。
有很多的時間：
出旅行，出學習 ，
做自己真正喜欢的事
對自己年齡的外表滿意：
Thursday, August 6, 2015
Wednesday, April 22, 2015
你都在做甚麼？
(1) 你在賴床，他在鍛鍊，所以他比你健康。
(2) 你在應付上班，他用心工作及進修，所以他過你無法過的人生。
(3) 你在完成今天的行程，他在撰寫明年的計劃，所以他比你掌握更多的契機。
(4) 你在尋找藉口，他在解決問題，所以他比你更受賞識。
(5) 你一直活在自己的世界，他努力幫助別人走出世界，所以他贏得更多人脈。
(6) 你在消費，他在理財，所以他生活比你更富足。
成功沒有奇蹟，只有軌跡。
改變是痛苦的，不改變的話，未來會更痛苦！
不努力進取，別人想拉你一把，都找不到你的手在哪裡 ?
四不能
弟子問佛陀：您既神通又慈悲，為何還有人受苦？
佛陀答曰：我雖有宇宙最大的神通力，但依然有四件事情是做不到的：
第一，因果不可改：自因自果，自業自報，別人是代替不了的；
第二，智慧不可賜：任何人要開智慧，離不開自身的磨練；
第三，真法不可說：宇宙真相用語言講不明白，只能靠實證；
第四，無緣不能度：無緣之人，他是聽不進你的話的。
天雨雖大，不潤無根之草；佛法無邊，難度無緣之人。
Tuesday, April 14, 2015
難題
昨天晚上作了一個夢。大至上是我在一個非常狹窄的水溝裏救出了四，五隻灰白色的小貓和貓媽媽。其中有些小貓好像眼睛壞了一隻，也有生病的，很是可憐！跟著有愛護動物協會的人出現了並把小貓們一家放入大大小小的鐡籠裏，然後就把車子開走了。但是最後得到的消息竟然是他們全部被人道毀滅了！！原因是他們都着涼了，在短期內都不會有人領養他們的，所以協會的人就決定把他們處決掉！夢境到這裡我就突然醒了，但仍然非常難過。雖然只是和小貓們相處了很短的時間！我想來想去也想不通，...其實我是否應該先把小貓一家照顧到病好了，然後再把他們放生？我這樣的想法是想讓自己好過一點嗎？真正好的做法是怎樣？我好像不可能每次都收養一家的小貓....但到底要怎樣做才是最好？
Thursday, October 30, 2014
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