孩子是上天派來的天使、他們的本性是天真、無知、淘氣、純品的。他們對於凡間的事情是一無所知的。作為天使在地球上的監護人，你會對他們、或應該對他們的不懂事大聲責罵，嚴懲處罰嗎？是否應該用更友好、更和善、更有效的方法去教導呢？如果天使變質的話，應該都是監護人害的。
天使不可打也不應被罵、要用正面教育方是最正確、清楚、可行的方法。
This is for everyone:
RULES OF THE HOUSE
1) When we behave properly we are able to remain in the same room with the others.
2) When we tell all the truth we make our family happy.
3) When we obey we earn privileges.
4) When we are good or play nicely we get the attention we want.
5) When we stay calm in difficult situations we show that we are in control and earn privileges.
6) When we take good care of our bodies, clothes, belongings and rooms, we can enjoy our belongings and earn privileges.
7) Our parents are the ones who decide which privileges we earn: use of toys, stickers, hugs, kisses, food, etc.
and this is for the parents:
PARENTS' CHART
1) We are teachers of good behaviour, not punishers of bad behaviour.
2) We reinforce good behaviour by paying attention to it and rewarding it.
3) We weaken bad behaviour by ignoring when it's a small thing, and by taking away privileges/using time out and re-directing it to more positive behaviours.
4) We don't pay attention to any behaviour that we don't like to be repeated.
5) We take action only if it's going to make things better.
6) We explain clearly our expectations and which privileges are earned or lost through obedience or lack of it.
7) We do not get sucked in any discussion about what's fair, or who's fault it is. We let the children cool down somewhere, say we are sorry if they are upset and leave it at that.
8) We don't ask children why they are doing something that is wrong; we just re-direct that behaviour to a praiseworthy one.
9) We do not get angry; we stay calm and in control; we let the natural consequences do the teaching.
10) If the kids misbehave/whine/are in pre-temper tantrum stage, we put them in time out and only say: "When you behave like this you may not be with us."
11) We appreciate honesty and do not jump at anyone for revealing an unpleasant truth.
12) We use positive expressions and put the responsibility for kids' behaviour squarely on their shoulder. i.e. "You have not earned the right to do this. You deny yourself the privilege to..."
